Mean PHOTOG

"Cool Shit"

That's how i feel about this man's photography

Alive,Original,Untouched

"Raw and Uncut"

That's how i feel about his work

This man has taken everyday photo's

of Life around him Literally

each picture represents

so much more

than whats shown on the page

well to me anyway.

I get a cool, exciting,
"I might no see this again" vibe

when I view his work

It just doesn't feel like your regular

photo

Jamel Shabazz has Talent

while he's just going with the Flow

*These are some of his Oldies*

To Good to be True

Simply Put

There's No Such Thing As

To Good To Be True

Honestly speaking there's not such a thing,

think about it ..

You like/have feelings for/love someone

they treat you really nice

they say everything that you want to hear unknowingly

but

they have that ONE flaw you cant stand

So its not to good to be true

because if that were the case

you wouldn't be able to point out ANY flaws!

Your day is going fast/smooth/well

and everyone around you is giving off good vibes

but

you know that it has to end

and it wont be exactly the same tomorrow

you just cant live this Same day again

So its not to good to be true!

Me, Myself

I would rather live life

appreciating exactly who the people around me are

and the days as great or as shitty as they may come

I would rather assume or predict

that the people and things

the days and vibes

the emotions and ideas

that surround me

are all

just good

but not

to good

to be

TRUE

Simple

I'm simply a glutton for new things

but

there's a shift

I like new things however there's always apart of me that wants to regress

right after i have progressed

maybe because i don't like the new change

or maybe because I'm afraid of what could happen,

in the even that i decide to stick with the change.

I'm still in the process of figuring that out.

Sitting on the edge of a daring situation

realizing that forever could be made in one moment - Flavie'

Thursday Session .

Today's Pick:

Anita Baker - Sweet Love

This Song will ALWAYS remain a Classic!

Thursday Session .

Today's Pick:

Kenny Lattimore - For You

Don't Ask Why

Just Listen

Hope You Enjoy

Thursday Music Session .

Due to today's new vision of music

I've decided to Dedicate Every THURSDAY

to Posting what I believe is Good R&B andd Hip Hop

Not to say that the music being produced now is Trash

Just to say ..

There was WAY better music

when my Mother was coming up

Ready to Go?

A Beautiful Friend

Because You were to good

to be here

It should have been of no surprise

that you weren't here for long .

A beautiful friend, soul, person, individual, life

No words can describe

what not having you around is like .

Maybe the impact hit so Hard because you were my age

and as a young lady

and even a teenager

its not something that anyone can readily accept.

Your friend

My friend

the same exact kid who was so strong

so animated

so alive

fell to something so small

Maybe that's the reason it hurt so much more

I didn't believe that you could pass

not at that age

not when we had so much more to accomplish

as friends

as teens

as young people

And it Hurts

And it makes me Question things

So I have to bring myself to remember that now

your an even more beautiful person

and even one of my angels

and one of my close friends

watching over me

and I cant complain

other than to say

I miss you

Rest In Peace Handsome

I Love YOU

Andy Uwadinobi

May 22nd 1989

December 2nd 2OO7

That Old Thing Back

Why cant we go back

Just for a second or a few minutes

to get that

Old Thing Back

What ever happened to

being content in where we were

being honest about who we planned to be

and

being Exactly who we were at EVERY moment?

No new clothes, sneakers, or extra accessories needed

just give me you.

Why you ask?

Because i may not remember your new leather jacket and your nice ass kicks

every time i think of the way you might have made me feel.

No need to be loud, rude, or extra extra

just show up to this conversation clean.

Why you ask?

Because i may not hear all of the substance that you are trying to feed me

if i have to compete with the ignorance that you might believe is attractive.

I Just Might Love You ..

Let's Go Back

Just for the Old Feeling .

LoveLifeFlavie

& that's how its been put .

Collecting Dust.

Apparently i have been attending:

SLACKER UNIVERSITY!

but

I'M BACK BACK BACK

anddd

IN FULL EFFECT

I have a lot on my mind

and I'm ready to share it ..

WATCH OUT

Growing .

Over this summer

I learned one GIANT key thing:

We should always allow people the chance to grow

and see other things around them.

What I mean by this is, in the process of getting to know new friends

and keeping up with old ones we sometimes forget that

although we have been around some people for long periods of time

they might have other interests besides their relationship with you.

Not that your relationship with them is of less importance, they just want to know

and experience new people and surroundings.

Sometimes in the quest to experience new things we tend not to forget, but to neglect our relationships that we have with people.

Although our intentions may not be to hurt people,

we put ourselves and our thirst and hunger for new experiences first.

I personally understand that thirst

but sometimes everyone cant understand it.

Its not up to them to assume that you want to try new things

its your job as a friend to be honest and let them know how you feel.

As seasons change relationships do too

its up to the people in them to decide if they want to continue

on to the next season with that same relationship

or if they want to keep that relationship distant

and just keep the memories.

Every relationship that ends isn't because of something bad

as humans many of our first instincts is to believe that

when a relationship ends, it must be because someone did something wrong.

It doesn't always have to be that way,

in fact many relationships end on mutual notes.

Sometimes people can be honest and open enough to let

a friend or significant other know that they aren't happy in their relationship

or that they don't see themselves continuing the relationship for whatever reasons.

Assuming the other person can respect their judgement

or even understand it at a later time
then they end well.

LoveLifeFlavie'

And that's how its been put .

Summer slacking .

Over the summer I haven't taken the time to update my blog

however as of tonight i will be updating regularly.

I AM NO LONGER A SLACKER!!

A place for you .

So I've been gone for a while

but

I'm back now . =)

I've been thinking and on my mind I have a few things

however I'll only write about what I value the most

People's parts in others lives

I've put a lot of thought into people and their individual roles in others lives and in my own life

and I put together the assumption that without certain people in my life

all the pieces wouldn't have come together as they have

Honestly without certain individuals in my life I wouldn't have learned

the many things that I know or experienced the same experiences

and if not for those people I might not have been the person I' am

Not that the people around you make you who you are

however they help to sculpt or paint you into your best and most individual self

Think about this

had we not had certain calm or crazy people

certain understanding and extreme people

what might our days and months and years have been like ?

In their own small ways the people around you help you to decide who you will be as an individual

If it weren't for different people around you, you wouldn't have in depth views of many different

personalities

because of the people around you, you get a personal and up close view on lives

and you get to see how you affect and help sculpt their lives as well

So while thinking of the people in my life who helped to sculpt me

I realised that life wouldn't have been the same without them

even the people who were only around for weeks or months

it doesn't matter if you love or cant stand someone they had an impact on your life

no matter what way you look at them because

something they may have said or done may have changed a view you had

or the way you felt

Appreciate the the different artists in your life

weather they are still at work on you

or no longer working with you

realise that without them you may have missed out on something

that could or would have been a very special part of you.

LoveLifeflavie .

A few minutes before 12

Just a few minutes before 12

Its the eve of my birthday and the year of 18 was Great

This year I completed my first year of COLLEGE

and I learned about more of who I am and who I am becoming as a young lady

I've come to appreciate many more things,

and I've realized that the best things are most simple and sweet

and sometimes you don't see how good things really are until you

have the chance to view many other peoples points of view and life situations.

The Year of 18

I have faced hurt, doubt,astonishment,love,excitement,pleasure,Independence

and soooo many other things

I have have made a small number of new friends

and i have left behind a small portion of my past

and all for good reason

to better myself.

In the Year of 19

I hope to experience much more then what I already have

I'm enjoying life

I'm enjoying myself

and I'm going to learn to further all my experiences

and to further learn about and embrace the people I call friends and family.

LoveLifeFlavie'

And that's how its been put .

Who knows ?

To worry or to worry?

To worry would imply that you care

Not to worry would imply that you do not

however

can you care and just give up on worrying?

worrying and wondering

what if you just leave it up to what ever it will be

and say that

you did your best and if that doesn't work for things,

then who knows !

and who's to say your worry isn't going to waste?

and who's to say that your worry is going to be useful in the end?

and who's to say that your worry will actually mean anything?

who knows?

So I've made a decision amidst my few worries

i simply will not

i simply will not worry

where will this get me in the long run?

I have yet to meet anyone who has had any benefit from their worries

so i have decided that worries mean nothing

nothing at all

and if you don't complain then your worries just sit on your thoughts

why waste good thought space?

So I'm going to try something new

if something comes up

and i feel like a "worry" might start to occur

I'll simply think it over 2 times 3 just to be extra sure

and decide if I'm going to care or not

all this worrying that people do isn't worth it

I've been thinking and it really isn't

because either way you go

it will get better or it just wont

and we know this so why worry?

and i know why

because even thought we shouldn't

as humans we have expectations

and we believe that even though we know the direction something is going in

we believe that if we wish or think hard enough in the opposite direction that

things will magically change .

So a new goal is

respect the course that thing may go in unless

you really have the power to change them

if not learn to appreciate and work with the hand you've been dealt

for your current situation.

And that's how its been put .

Time . So thats what it is

Time, I was thinking about time

and I was wondering about the days that go past,

I'm changing .

As people grow up, they don't realize that their changing

unknowing genuinely changing

and it doesn't even matter if its for good or bad

they are simply changing .

Time doesn't allow us not to change,

we have to as apart of being who we are

and we wont ever fully be who we are

unless we are changed by time and events .

Time and change

they warrant both

new and old

with them comes seasons

different outlooks and feelings toward everything

even if you hadn't expected it to turn out that way .

I believe that in some aspects everyone doesn't

embrace their changes

and

sometimes we try to hide behind our old selves

in order to keep from becoming who we are destine to be .

Hiding or excluding change from yourself

isn't going to help you,

you simply have to learn to embrace

even the events in life that you don't want to .

Change for yourself

never for anyone else

don't stop your change to save anyone else's feelings

be who you have to be

in order to be your true self

don't hide

don't lie

don't feel like you cant be you

even if you have to let go

let go

let go

of everything else that you know .

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___________________________________________________

___________________________________________________________

I want you to be nothing but exactly who and what you want to be

I want you to be happy

I want you to change and embrace your newest self

I want you to leave me behind if you have to

I want you to be the best possible you

even if that means your new you

doesn't include me

dedicated to you .

So that's how its been put .

Friends to think about .

"I hate when friends I know become friends I knew"

-My friend Lauren

What exactly causes friendships to end?

well besides many different conflicts

whats the real and official reason for friendships ending?

Is it that all possibilities to keep the friendship alive were exhausted,

so no one took any more time to try,

could it be that the people simply out grew each other,

or that they just started to grow in different directions?

I was wondering today while I had some time alone,

what exactly causes friendships to end really really really?

I can remember when I was in grade school,

and kids would be upset with each other and find

5OO different ways to end up speaking because their "friend"

meant so much to them at the time .

What ever happened to those strong feelings we had for friends?

Where they simply left behind with our childish games and

grade school learning's?

Are we growing and learning or actually forgetting

special more critical things that we should be holding onto,

and remembering?

I know as a child we don't really believe that our friends

can do us any wrong,

however as adults we defend our friends to the end

and as soon as we have a disagreement or someone gets upset

your ready to throw that same friend under a bus .

It upsets me how we let little things come between

what seem like meaningful friendships,

and can forget people who we didn't ever think we would be able to live without

a few days earlier .

How can we now disregard the fact that

someone that we valued and cared for

are nothing but distant waves, and if even genuine stares when in passing by?

I feel as thought when we were younger we might have had

a better concept on the value of friendships,

not in a very big sense but in the most meaningful parts.

I miss real friends and not seasonal friends

I miss genuine friends and not fake friends

I miss friends I remember and not friends that I am forced to forget

because of silly arguments and meaningless fights

I want to know that I have friends

I want to know that I'm not just a friend that's good when I'm around

I want to be assured that even if I leave for a week, month, or year

that my place in a friends heart wont ever be tampered with

or replaced with someone who has had the time to be around more then I.

Anytime I know that I can be replaced without thought

I know that I never actually had a place from the beginning

and that's what hurts more when I wonder about friends

I knew .

I appreciate friends that I can grow with and even watch grow no matter how different their growth may be from my own.

I appreciate friends that don't mind being themselves because if I'm your friend

you have no reason to ever feel like you'll be judged by me.

And if we're friends distance, words, and nothing else would matter,

because at the end of the day we know our places in each others life.

I always appreciate friendships that flourish even when friends aren't around

as much as you would like them to be

it shows a silent understanding of your special bond.

Its a beautiful thing when you can miss out on a friend for a long period of time

and when you see each other catch up as if you've only been away for a day.

Appreciate the friends you know .

To: all my current, absent, late, and in between friends . I love you

Adia Ferris you'll always be my bestfriendforlife .

(i didnt have a picture of us on my laptop)

And that's how its been put .

boredom .

So today in my human body class

it hit me

it definitely hit me

whamslapboom

the big b word

BOREDOM

and what was I to do ?

I was paying attention because this education definitely cost some cash

and it wasn't mine it was my mothers (shaking my head).

So while I thought I was paying attention

during my teacher discussing all types of the body

and whats going on inside

(things like this make me start to believe something could be wrong with me)

I found out that I might have a new piece of TALENT

check me the hell out !

My inspiration being my cute little non college like folder

soooo what !

I'm still a Disney girl and my Momma bought it .

Thank You

Mind you I haven't ever had the drawing gene

its always been straight stars, hearts, stick figures, or weird people with big heads.

I was impressed and so was my roommate !

mmmmhhhmmmm !

And I did it in PEN

what what ?!

anyway after the discovery of my new talent

and a short hallway break

I got back to work

and learned a few things .

And that's how its been put

questions .

Why is it that the people you take care of unthinkingly wont ever take care of you

and in the same token why wont the people you take care of ever appreciate what you do

but will quickly give another person a standing ovation ?

So i was wondering what do you have to do

to get someone who should notice you

to appreciate someone that

they should be thankful for ?

And I was thinking

why is it so easy for people to appreciate

another person who does so much less then what they ask of you ?

And I was noticing

that the more you do the least further you get

and the less you do only warrants questioning

when you've been around for a while .

And why is it that women

are always willing to give so much

and men are always willing to simply take ?

So I was thinking is this something

that we let fall upon us as certain individuals

or is it just

you attract a certain type of people

who wont ever simply just appreciate you ?

And I was questioning

if people genuinely don't know that their ungrateful

or if they don't care because their used to your simple and automatic reactions regarding them ?

And I was thinking

do the same people who don't appreciate you

have people who don't appreciate them

and is that what you get in return for

another persons actions ?

Simply appreciate who and what you have

because you don't know

when you opportunities will run out

and when your willing to share

your appreciation or thanks

they wont be available to listen .

and that's how its been put .

Casual or Confused ?

Sex sells right ?

Yea so I was wondering

and thinking

and I decided to post .

Sex : all of the feelings resulting from the urge to gratify sexual impulses .

It seems to me as though anyone and everyone

are just having sex these days

and its become something as casual

as a hello and goodbye situation .

However although its "casual"

it seems to me as though sometimes

the casual turns into comfort

and people get confused .

Why do some people believe that because someone

has sex with them, that person is automatically obligated to them?

I don't understand why some girls assume that because

they open up to a guy hes suppose to feel the exact same way

in return?

Sex in my opinion has become a little more casual

then it should be, not only are people just having sex

they are having it with anybody .

I'm starting to believe that sex is the new way to get to know the person your with

honestly I don't think that anyone now a days is really getting to know

the people they are in relationships with

I also believe that people are starting to use sex as a way

of showing how they feel, and it isn't .

Sex isn't whats going to hold a relationship together

and if you really knew and cared for someone

sex wouldn't be the glue to hold you and that person together right ?

i thought so .

Sex complicates things for people

and I'm tired of hearing of all the reasons that it does

If we took the time to get to know one another

then it would eliminate the whole waste of sex

when you realise that they have no real interest in you

and you two have no real interest in each other .

Sex is something that everyone is starting to hide behind

and use as excuses to do and "say" certain things .

If you have sex like its an everyday thing

what else do you have to offer ?

I believe that, if you honestly took the time

to love yourself you wouldn't have to

waste time finding it in a bed with someone else

having someone around is a beautiful thing

and so are relationships

however make sure their right .

and that's how its been put .

a father .

So I was wondering and thinking about something today

and its been on my mind all morning .

I was wondering about girls who's fathers aren't in their lives

and all of the stereotypes surrounding girls under these circumstances

and I wanted to sort through and break down some of these ideas .

What exactly is a father?

and

what might having one in your life do for you?

Father : a male parent

Parent : a father or mother; one who begets or one who gives birth to or nurtures and raises a child

Not all but many people assume

that girls who don't have fathers

turn out bad or unfavorable

or

they believe that the girl

wont have as stable an upbringing as a young lady

who has a father in her life

they believe that the young lady without a father is more prone

to try out and do things that aren't good for them

and some studies say that young ladies without fathers in their lives

turn out to be promiscuous .

Learning and hearing these things infuriate me

in MANY ways .

First off I would LOVE to know

what young ladies they do this research on?!

Second I would love to know

where they got these girls from?!

and third

what circumstances were these girls under before and besides

not having a father present ?

The reason I feel so strongly about this is because

I happen to be one of those young ladies "with no father"

and I am nothing like any of the stereotypes I hear of or have heard of .

However I will say this

I believe and have seen

many cases of a young lady not having a father in their life

and she will look for what she believes is love in all the wrong places

the only problem many girls have is that they believe that the love

that their father didn't provide can be given and substituted by any man

and that is the worst possible assumption!!

Just because you meet someone who is nice to you

doesn't mean that they have your best interest in mind

and just because someone gives you a little attention doesn't

mean they plan to stay around in the long run.

I want girls to wise up to the fact that just because you have sex with

someone doesn't mean they owe you anything.

Many girls I know tend to believe that if they have a little relationship with someone

the person will feel obligated to stay around

THEY WONT!

You cant depend on ANY man to feel obligated to fill

the place in your heart that your father never felt the need to fill

and it hurts to know that a man who is suppose to love you

and care about you doesn't

however that should only make you stronger when the next man comes along.

I feel as though when you have no father your skin should be tougher

and you should well and fully understand by a certain age

that every man you meet isn't meant to be in your life

long term

and after not having a father in your life

you should understand that you have to really get to know someone

before you give them your all

and above all before you decide to give them you.

Having a father that I know of

and only live about 2O minutes away from

hurts a lot and I wonder all the time

what I could have done different

to make him want to be around me and stay in my life .

I cant count the amount of times I have

thought of all the sports I could have taken

or all the amazing things I could have done SOOOO much more better

to make him have even the smallest interest in me

but he never came around and still isn't in my life .

I've spent time around him

and plenty of time with his family

whom I love a lot , however

even still he has no interest in me

and for a reason I may never know

however I must say

it has only made me stronger and made me want to push for so much more

so that at the end of the day I still did everything

that I wanted to do and I still have achieved so much to make my mother proud of me.

I want for nothing and I have all the love that I need

so I'm good.

don't get me wrong I'm hurt everyday by him not being in my life

but each little scar I get from him

only make my achievements seem soo much more better

because I did all of it without him.

Many young women without fathers

do GREAT things everyday

and achieve SOOO much

I just wanted to break down some of the walls that have been set up for us

because not many people try to find out

about the few young ladies who aren't

and don't plan to become Statistics .

before I end off my post

I want to say thank you to my mother and

my uncle Keith

because they have been everything

I have needed and

I cant say I have a father but I have had my uncle

I'm grateful for him because

he doesn't have to be there for me

it isn't his obligation

but he willingly does

everything my father should do for me

and hes always proud of everything I do

and has never made me feel less then

or not good enough

ILOVEYOU

and that's how its been put .

A wish for you .

Today I wrote a poem

(besides that I'm sicckyy!!)

and MERRYHAPPY EASTER!

I hope you get what you want

and by this i mean

whatever touches your heart in the most profound way

i hope you can touch

whatever whomever makes you smile the brightest

i hope you can return many smiles for in the future

whatever your dreams may be

i wish for you to achieve

i wish for you to only know the best in everyone in everything

because for you to see anything less

wouldn't be good enough for your eyes

i wish for you

i wish for you

i wish for you

because your on my mind to much for me to wish for myself

and thoughts of you consume my wishes

so i might as well touch on the topic of you

and i might as well not breathe for fear i might

forget the smallest details of your face

and any wish I've ever heard you whisper

for the best I'm always wishing

especially when it comes to you

So beyond what i might say

or forget to write

in letters you may never receive

on phones you may never pick up

in thoughts of mine you will never find

i hope to see you wandering about

in my subconscious so at least then i can

reminisce on you more

and possibly touch your heart in the most faint

but memorable way possible

to have you believe in heights impossible because

we had one dream together

and by together i mean

we both had a dream and the possibilities of us

were endless and i wished for nothing more but

you .

and that's how its been put .

the settle idea.

Today my roommate(thee girl in the picture with me)asked me

what exactly defined settling ?

To be honest there's so many ways someone can settle

the question is do they realise when they are doing so?

Or might their settling be the cause of them missing out on their potential best?

In what ways might people settle, well in any category you can think of

people can settle.

Here's where I begin ...

Settle - become resolved, fixed, established, or quiet;

conclusively; come to terms;

sink: go under;

and finally

accept despite lack of complete satisfaction

Settling doesn't bring to me in any way, good ideas

in a sense it sort of brings me to the question why sacrifice instead of being happy

and also why settle when you can push for so much more in life?

In a way I feel as though if your settling,

you don't honestly believe that your good enough to achieve anything better

or you might be to lazy to strive for what else may be within your reach.

However, you must also realise that you cant expect that perfection will be granted

on the parts of other people, and with that you cant believe your settling

just because you don't like one or two traits that a person may have.

If that was the case

then so many people wouldn't be with who their with, or doing what they do.

It would also be very hard to have anyone as a friend or lover or whatever you would like then to be if your standards were to high.

In terms of people:

I believe that you cant expect anything in a relationship weather it be a friendship, a relationship, or anything else from a person that you wouldn't want expected of yourself.

You cant set standards that you know that you yourself can't achieve because then you would be asking for more then you yourself would be able to provide to them.

I believe that having standards are fine as long as their standards real people can live up to.

Don't get me wrong!

If someone cant do anything for you and cant provide you with at least some mental and verbal "goodness" then you might be settling don't feel as though just because you like one thing

you have to stay around for 300 other things you might not like

just make sure that you like more things then a few about a person

or you might find that you don't know them at all.

WHATS WITH PEOPLE SETTLING THESE DAYS?!

I know too many people who are being with people

and sticking around people just for a fix or to have them as a crutch to lean on

I don't want people to get hooked on the thought of "feeling for the moment"

FEELING FOR THE MOMENT: at the time its right for you but next week it wont be

feeling for the moment isn't right for anyone especially if only one person knows about it

because later on down the line when your no longer "feeling" the other person might be wrapped up in you and then what?

so DON'T feel for the moment and DON'T settle

because your settle might be someones true choice

and then you went from settling to using, and from that theirs only hurt.

On the other side of that card

your settling could only hurt you if you never get out of it

and you'll always end up wondering what if

and in that settling time you could have let a really good thing go.

Sarah one of my best friends,(the girl above)

said a classic line when I asked her her thoughts on the idea

a simple :

"settle because no one wants to die alone, don't settle because its a damn headache!"

Don't settle because your alone at the moment, simply learn to enjoy your alone time.

In life:

NEVER settle unless its a life/death situation, to settle in life is simply bullshit.

Why would anyone have to settle in life?

if you don't get something learn it, if you don't like it get over it, if you feel sick get better, settling in life is just a sign of laziness, unless on the other hand you let someone talk you down.

STRIVE STRIVE STRIVE

don't EVER settle in life .

On an end note,

I want people to take a moment,

find out what you really want as an individual

find out if things are worth settling for

or lowering expectations because of

and then journey out into what you think you will find

and appreciate the people around you.

and that's how its been put .

to know or not to know .

What classifies someone as known?

How do we know when and at the exact point it is that we know someone?

What is knowing someone anyway?

These are all questions I have been wondering in the past month or two and finally I have decided to put these few thoughts down.

Knowing: Possessing knowledge or understanding; intelligent; Shrewd or showing clever awareness; Suggestive of private knowledge.

Someones name or address isn't exactly their information as it is merely who they go by or were they live. As humans we tend to base any and everything someone tells us as something to go by or something to know. Just think how many times in your life have you told someone something you thought they wanted to know just to get them to go on with their day. Many times I have wondered if what I assume about a person is what there is to know about them or merely what they themselves just would like me to believe.

In general do we as people ever actually know the people around us?

Sometimes I feel as thought the people I've known the longest are the ones I know the least about. It is as if the time has somehow erased any old they have told you and brought about some new air to them. Just as when you meet someone new you believe that anything they tell you is something to know, when in all reality it could be just something to say. How do we in fact know when someone has let us on to something to know or just something to sit on for the time we are in their presence.

I don't believe that any one person is ever really known to anyone, not even the one or few people that that they believe they have bore their soul to and even have poured their heart out with. Knowing isn't a favorite color or birthday because those are just preferences and when life began for them, does that even classify as knowing in the end?

If in fact we actually knew the people we thought we did as in the dynamics of their mind what they were capable of how they exactly felt, would we still be attracted to them in whatever way we started out to be? In countless works of fiction their has been someone who thought they knew another person and in fact when they did know the person they didn't like what they had seen.

So do we ever actually know who we know or do we just like to assume that we would like to know who we think we know based on what we have seen from them or heard out of their mouths?

Just a bit for me to think about but a lot to swallow.

and that's how its been put

Expectations .

So recently I was wondering

Why do people always let expectations get the best of them?

Expectation: In the case of uncertainty, expectation is what is considered the most likely to happen. An expectation, which is a belief that is centred on the future, may or may not be realistic. A less advantageous result gives rise to the emotion of disappointment .

Expectations are the damnedest little or very large things.

However in every "expectors" mind, its funny that they know they are setting themselves up for an undoubted failure, so why do they persist?

Maybe sometimes they have help setting up these "expectations" or maybe they even decided to create these expectations on their own

STUPiD STUPiD STUPiD!

I want people to stop assuming

assuming didn't ever paint a pretty picture in the end, well at least it didn't for anyone i know.

I want individuals to really take the time to sit and think about the things they want to attain

and the goals that they want to achieve.

I want people to have an idea or at least more belief and knowledge then expectations on the things they want in life.

In life your never going to get anywhere trying to protect yourself from the world and everyone in it. Its a major part of life to go into things that you know can possibly hurt you.

If an individual lived their whoooooole life "unhurt" how could they ever possibly know what its like to truly be genuinely happy?

So to end,

stop having expectations

start living for who you want to be

don't ever assume

just retain enough drive to do whatever your heart wants in the end.

On that note,

this is how I put it

thee Captain

Before You Know More .

I've decided to give you a little before you know more.

Being that this is my first blog we'll start out with

BASiCS!

I'm very obviously female from my picture.

There will be no specific topics to my blogs

however, I HAVE A LOT TO SAY

so stay tuned .