the settle idea.

Today my roommate(thee girl in the picture with me)asked me

what exactly defined settling ?

To be honest there's so many ways someone can settle

the question is do they realise when they are doing so?

Or might their settling be the cause of them missing out on their potential best?

In what ways might people settle, well in any category you can think of

people can settle.

Here's where I begin ...

Settle - become resolved, fixed, established, or quiet;

conclusively; come to terms;

sink: go under;

and finally

accept despite lack of complete satisfaction

Settling doesn't bring to me in any way, good ideas

in a sense it sort of brings me to the question why sacrifice instead of being happy

and also why settle when you can push for so much more in life?

In a way I feel as though if your settling,

you don't honestly believe that your good enough to achieve anything better

or you might be to lazy to strive for what else may be within your reach.

However, you must also realise that you cant expect that perfection will be granted

on the parts of other people, and with that you cant believe your settling

just because you don't like one or two traits that a person may have.

If that was the case

then so many people wouldn't be with who their with, or doing what they do.

It would also be very hard to have anyone as a friend or lover or whatever you would like then to be if your standards were to high.

In terms of people:

I believe that you cant expect anything in a relationship weather it be a friendship, a relationship, or anything else from a person that you wouldn't want expected of yourself.

You cant set standards that you know that you yourself can't achieve because then you would be asking for more then you yourself would be able to provide to them.

I believe that having standards are fine as long as their standards real people can live up to.

Don't get me wrong!

If someone cant do anything for you and cant provide you with at least some mental and verbal "goodness" then you might be settling don't feel as though just because you like one thing

you have to stay around for 300 other things you might not like

just make sure that you like more things then a few about a person

or you might find that you don't know them at all.

WHATS WITH PEOPLE SETTLING THESE DAYS?!

I know too many people who are being with people

and sticking around people just for a fix or to have them as a crutch to lean on

I don't want people to get hooked on the thought of "feeling for the moment"

FEELING FOR THE MOMENT: at the time its right for you but next week it wont be

feeling for the moment isn't right for anyone especially if only one person knows about it

because later on down the line when your no longer "feeling" the other person might be wrapped up in you and then what?

so DON'T feel for the moment and DON'T settle

because your settle might be someones true choice

and then you went from settling to using, and from that theirs only hurt.

On the other side of that card

your settling could only hurt you if you never get out of it

and you'll always end up wondering what if

and in that settling time you could have let a really good thing go.

Sarah one of my best friends,(the girl above)

said a classic line when I asked her her thoughts on the idea

a simple :

"settle because no one wants to die alone, don't settle because its a damn headache!"

Don't settle because your alone at the moment, simply learn to enjoy your alone time.

In life:

NEVER settle unless its a life/death situation, to settle in life is simply bullshit.

Why would anyone have to settle in life?

if you don't get something learn it, if you don't like it get over it, if you feel sick get better, settling in life is just a sign of laziness, unless on the other hand you let someone talk you down.

STRIVE STRIVE STRIVE

don't EVER settle in life .

On an end note,

I want people to take a moment,

find out what you really want as an individual

find out if things are worth settling for

or lowering expectations because of

and then journey out into what you think you will find

and appreciate the people around you.

and that's how its been put .